I\u2019m 42. Single. A mom. An entrepreneur. And\u2026 yes, I\u2019m in perimenopause. For those wondering, \u201cSo, what is that anyway?\u201d – imagine your body giving you a monthly preview of what it\u2019s like to constantly think, \u201cWhat now?\u201d But that\u2019s a story for another time. What I will say is: I\u2019m looking for someone who sees that I\u2019m not just a strong woman, but also someone who sometimes just needs a little space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Between raising my son, running my business, and juggling my hormones while pretending everything\u2019s fine, I catch myself wondering: Where is that great guy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nope, I don\u2019t have any dating apps on my phone. Not because I\u2019m old-fashioned – but because I\u2019m done with conversations that start with, \u201cHey sexy, what are you looking for here?\u201d and end with, \u201cOh, you have a kid? Good luck with that.\u201d
No thanks, swipe on, darling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You also won\u2019t find me at events, mixers, or dance floors every weekend. Not because I don\u2019t love a good time – but because I\u2019m just happy if I land on the couch on Sunday with a face mask on and no one yelling \u201cMom!\u201d from the kitchen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Deep down, I still crave love. Real love. The kind where someone gets it when your mind is overwhelmed, someone who wants to grow with you – even when you\u2019re not sure where you\u2019ll find the energy tomorrow. Someone who understands that I\u2019m in perimenopause and that my mood can shift from \u201clet\u2019s conquer the world\u201d to \u201cwhere\u2019s my blanket?\u201d in under a minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Well, I\u2019ve come to this conclusion: Love doesn\u2019t have to come through an app or in a glittery dress on a Friday night. Love can just\u2026 show up. In your own flow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Maybe he\u2019ll be sitting on that soccer sideline next to me, with his own kid who can never find their socks. Maybe I\u2019ll meet him at some networking event I didn\u2019t even want to go to, but went to anyway. Maybe my neighbour knows his cousin and one day says, \u201cJen, I know someone perfect for you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because no, I\u2019m not actively on the hunt. But I\u2019m keeping the door slightly open. I don\u2019t have time for games, but I do have time for connection. I don\u2019t need a rescuer, but I\u2019d love someone who can make me laugh when I\u2019m running on empty – someone who\u2019s willing to grow alongside me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So to all the men who think women like me are \u201ctoo much\u201d:
Nope. I\u2019m exactly enough.
Busy? Yes. Tired? Sometimes.
But loving, funny, loyal – and ready for something real.
And maybe, just maybe, you\u2019re the man who wants to grow with me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And who knows\u2026 maybe he\u2019ll just show up one day – no push notification required.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Love,
Jennifer<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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